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https://media.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/p/content.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/Season_2_Episode_7_Living_in_the_World_as_a_Nonbinary_Person.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download Hi everyone. Welcome back to Let’s Talk Gender. This episode is about living in the world as a nonbinary person including what ‘passing’ means for nonbinary people, navigating public washrooms, going to the gym, and how a nonbinary perspective can influence how you interpret other aspects of society.  PASSING AS NONBINARY Passing typically refers to the idea of ‘blending in’ with one of the binary genders, or being Read more

https://media.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/p/content.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/Season_2_Episode_6_Complexities_of_Nonbinary_Identities.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download Hi everyone. Welcome back to Let’s Talk Gender. This episode is about some of the more complex aspects of being nonbinary such as genderfluid identities, how physical and social aspects of gender can feel at odds with each other, and how nonbinary genders interact with sexual orientation. GENDERFLUID IDENTITIES Let’s start with a deeper look at genderfluid identities. I’m going to break this into three different categories for Read more

https://media.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/p/content.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/Season_2_Episode_5_Coming_Out_as_Nonbinary.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download Hi everyone. Welcome back to Let’s Talk Gender. This episode is about coming out as nonbinary, why it is so darn hard, how to figure out whether it’s the right time and place to do it (again), and how to respond to inappropriate questions and ignorance.  TO COME OUT OR NOT TO COME OUT… I look at coming out as an equation between pros and cons. On the Read more

Hi everyone. Welcome back to Let’s Talk Gender. This episode is about figuring out how you feel about your name, pronouns, and other types of gendered language and how to decide what feels right.  NAMES Some people feel very uncomfortable with their birth name, either because it is typically interpreted in a gendered way or because it is associated with their past identity before coming out.  Some people are perfectly comfortable with their name but Read more

https://media.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/p/content.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/Season_2_Episode_3_Nonbinary_Gender_Presentation_and_Expression.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download Hi Everyone. Welcome back to Let’s Talk Gender.  This episode is about nonbinary gender presentation and expression and how to figure out what works for you.  EXPLORING MY GENDER PRESENTATION AND EXPRESSION I think of presentation as things people would see in a picture – clothes, hair style, makeup, facial hair, accessories. Expression is everything else – behaviours, voice, how you walk, gesture, and move, conversation style, word Read more

https://media.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/p/content.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/Season_2_Episode_2_Nonbinary_Gender_Exploration.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download Hi Everyone. Welcome back to Let’s Talk Gender. This episode is about nonbinary gender exploration including my own personal exploration process and some other general ways you can explore your own gender. MY INITIAL GENDER EXPLORATION PROCESS I started with a list of what I knew: Both male and female My gender fluctuated somewhatI had both physical and social dysphoriaI felt invisible but didn’t feel ready to come out yet Read more

https://media.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/p/content.blubrry.com/lets_talk_gender/Season_2_Episode_1_Nonbinary_Identities_and_Labels.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | Download INTRO Welcome to Season 2 of Let’s Talk Gender. I’m Meaghan Ray, a nonbinary person. My husband Jake is a trans man. We have been together since before either of us began exploring our gender identities. I co-hosted Season 1 with Jake where we discussed our experiences through the gender transition process. Season 2 will be radio host monologue style and is all about life as a nonbinary Read more

I’m so close to the end of pregnancy! And the very sudden transition to parenthood. That’s not terrifying at all. THIRD TRIMESTER Third trimester has been all about coping as best as I can and preparing for life ahead. I have continued to have pelvic and back pain what has slowly gotten worse. I have a lot of difficulty rolling over in bed, getting out of bed in the morning, and moving around first thing Read more

I have used AMAB (assigned male at birth) and AFAB (assigned female at birth) many times since I started this blog. But I recently heard an argument against using these terms that I think is worth sharing. Though the terminology of ‘assigned at birth’ is better than ‘biological sex’ or simply ‘sex’, it doesn’t change the fact that these are still broad categories based on sex-at-birth characteristics. I often use these terms as a general Read more

The last few weeks of pregnancy are hard no matter what your experience is. You want it to be over but you’re nervous about the birthing process and having to care for the little being on the outside. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by frustration, discomfort, and anxiety, especially when dysphoria is thrown into the mix. So I’ve been asking myself a couple questions to keep myself focused on the positive and excited for the Read more